Posts Tagged ‘No Cry Sleep Method’

Enter Sandman

Exit light | Enter night
Take my hand |We’re off to never-never land

Dreaded Sleep. Everyone I live with is terrible at it. She may be cute as a peach, but Maisie is the worst at night, and daytime naps are a gamble. Wesley has “a scary imagination,” in his own words, which keeps him from resting peacefully. Some nights he’s up for two hours trying to settle himself into slumber. Steven is the lightest sleeper you’ve ever known, startling at any noise (ahem, my snores) and tossing around.

Every night I pray for stamina and endurance and to not get annoyed. I’ve adapted enough that either I 1) drift off quickly (and have one ear open) or 2) function enough on adrenaline to get by. But lately I feel like my life is spent trying to get these three people to sleep, and I’ve tried SO MANY PRODUCTS to survive aid us.

BOOKS
The Natural Baby Sleep Solution (fascinating and pretty accurate)
The Wonder Weeks (just as helpful as with Wesley!)

IN THE BED
Angel Dear lovies (Wes named his “Didi” and so naturally that’s what Maisie will call hers)
Cloud B Twilight Turtle (Wes still sleeps with it at night)
Weighted blanket (A perfect Christmas present! Seems to work well!)
Nested Bean Zen Classic weighted swaddle
Baby Merlin’s Magic Sleepsuit (it’s helping, a little)

BED ACCESSORIES
DreamTents bed tent (makes him feel cozy and safe)
Baby Einstein Sea Dreams Soother (seems to be more distracting than soothing)
Marpac Dohm sound machine (hands down the best)

SLEEP AIDS
RMO Counting Sheep essential oil roller (if nothing else, he smells good)
Lavender essential oil in a difuser
Nuby Soothing teething tablets
Melatonin (so far, this has helped Wes tremendously, but I am cautious about its regular use)

This list looks crazy long. While some things work for a time, the one thing that works every time is, well, time. And proximity. That is, every family member sleeps if they’re physically touching me.

We’re trying a secondary self-soothing technique for Maisie, since I can’t handle another night of crying-it-out. (Steven wins all the awards for his stubbornness. It’s because of ME that we’re even in this mess!) It involves fading – staying right by her side as she falls asleep and slowly moving further away each night. I haven’t yet made it past the crib because she loves holding my hand and trying to grab the hair that falls as I lean into her crib.

My aching back and nearly-numb limbs get a good stretch as I make my way back to our bedroom throughout the night – sometimes as many as four times.

And then there’s sweet Wesley, who hates to be alone, fears the dark and works himself up over strange outside noises. Steven helps get him ready for bed, and I’ll pop in to say goodnight after Maisie’s stable. Some nights it’s thirty minutes before I can calm her down, and I’ll later find Wes with a book and a flashlight.

“Mama, can you stay with me?”

He prefers that I crawl into his bed tent with his comforting lights and weighted blanket and stuffed animal friends and pray and talk until he gets drowsy. Some of the best conversations happen under that tent! I used to get so upset over his dependence; I now (usually) cherish this time.

After I’ve comforted the two kids, there’s hardly an evening left for me to enjoy. Many nights I don’t have the right attitude and grumble over the sacrifice. I sigh and complain and throw the bedcovers to the side. I pray with desperation and plead, “PLEEEEEEASE let us sleep tonight!”

Instead my focus should be praying for discernment. I recently heard a speaker share a few best practices for mothers. Turn my worries into prayers. “What do I do now?” becomes “Show me how to _____ “

This season will pass. Someday. My kids will likely never know how their concerned mother worried over their sleeping habits. I hope they only know how well we loved them.

[With wisdom and understanding] 24 When you lie down, you will not be afraid; when you lie down, your sleep will be sweet. -Proverbs 3:24

Posted: February 27th, 2019
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Bootcamp: Night 5

It’s very difficult to start a brand new nap schedule when you’re working from home. I decided to wait until next Friday, when I’m actually AT HOME and not working to start the schedule. That’s all fine and dandy, except it made the day very long and sleepy for Wes. If he would just fall asleep in his crib by himself, he would have had a much more pleasant day. Instead, I let him doze and nurse pretty much all day in order to lessen his crying and allow me to finish working.

I do think all this sleeping during the day IS helping him sleep better at night, however.

  • 6:00 p.m. Wes was still being fussy-tired after his early evening nap, so I decided to try putting him to bed after dinner. After all, he isn’t aware of the time change, so it’s really 7 p.m. his time… We took a bath (he enjoyed it for once), sang some songs and nursed.
  • 6:30 p.m.-7:00 p.m. After rocking to almost-sleep, I put Wes in the crib. He did so well being swaddled the night before that I went ahead and tucked his arms in again. I only went in to assure him twice before he fell asleep.
  • 12:00 a.m. Woke up, nursed and fell back asleep.
  • 3:15 a.m. Woke up to nurse again. The last couple nights that I’ve used the swaddle to keep him from startling, he has somehow worked himself completely out of the blanket by the 3 a.m. feeding. I rewrapped him, and he fussed only a few minutes before falling back asleep. Hooray!
  • 5:30 a.m. Wes woke up again. This is good, though, because I haven’t been able to get him back to sleep in his crib after 3 a.m. He was sooo awake and ready to play, and I knew the only way he’d relax himself back to sleep was with the rest of the Shattucks.
  • 6:45 a.m. We’re all awake. He woke up a few times after being in our room, but I figured he might since he hasn’t been sleeping as well with us as in his crib this week.

Sleep-in-Crib Hours: 10:00

Total Sleep Hours: 11:15

The “No-Cry” Sleep Method recommends completing a 10-day stretch to see an improvement. It also counts the number of wake ups during the night to monitor how that improves. Then you do an evaluation, see if anything futher needs to be changed, and complete another 10 nights to see improvement from additional issues.

After 5 nights, I think we’re on to a successful path. I know it will continue to get better once I get a specific nap schedule going. I had said earlier that I thought it would probably take all of November to figure this out, and now I believe it even more. I guess it’s a good thing, looking at the distant future, instead of worrying why results aren’t solid within a week’s time.

Onward we go!

Posted: November 8th, 2011
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